Comments on: 10 Ways We Unknowingly Hurt Women in Our Church

By: Cyndee Ownbey

Cyndee Ownbey — Wed, 03 May 2023 11:14:24 +0000

In reply to Sambo. Sambo, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. is it possible it was a compliment and not a criticism? Perhaps he is unaware that so many others have helped. I would not assume he wants you to stop. If you are concerned, I'd suggest setting up a meeting with him.

By: Sambo

Sambo — Tue, 02 May 2023 22:15:42 +0000

I have hosted four Women’s events since last November.
I like to do free special activities for the women who cannot afford much.
In an effort to involve more women, I have asked others for help and we make it a team effort.
Now my pastor embarrassed me by saying I have been doing everything myself.

The things I do are my gift to the women. I encourage others to have fellowship and to be friended. I will continue but was humiliated. Do you think he wants me to stop?

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 05:08:04 +0000

Can you just imagine Jesus telling us we have to wait until such and such a time to have a relationship with Him? I believe we need to allow ‘late comers’, if you will, to join a Group at any time! What if they just heard about it? What if they just came in to the church? What if circumstances in their life changed and they desperately needed other women for support and friendship. I feel we need to be more accommodating to others in our churches. To be a ‘Christian’ means to be ‘Christ like’. If we can’t be that way in our churches, then WHERE?

By: Cyndee Ownbey

Cyndee Ownbey — Sun, 20 Feb 2022 00:40:36 +0000

In reply to Helen. How exciting, Helen! I'm so glad you found this post helpful. <3

By: Helen

Helen — Thu, 17 Feb 2022 14:12:41 +0000

I love the post l have been asked to head the women’s group at church

By: Cyndee Ownbey

Cyndee Ownbey — Mon, 14 Sep 2020 20:27:53 +0000

In reply to Prima. Prima, that is a great point. New believers often wrongly believe that life as a Christ-follower is easy, but we know it's not! Thank you for your comments.

By: Prima

Prima — Tue, 08 Sep 2020 15:33:10 +0000

I was just reading “Great Commission Christian Women” before reading this blog. I fully believe after sharing the gospel it would be wise to prepare new converts as soon as possible for offensives. Warning how the enemy will always bring someone bye to cause offense and how to deal with it.
I throughly enjoyed both articles and believe we should do all that we can to not offend. If we know we have seek a way to make it right as soon as possible. I truly appreciate your ministry. Thank you!

By: Cyndee Ownbey

Cyndee Ownbey — Tue, 27 Aug 2019 01:12:20 +0000

In reply to Nicole. Nicole, thank you for your kind comments. Any church hurt hurts...I'm so sorry for your experience but thankful for the advice you've shared!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Mon, 26 Aug 2019 22:34:51 +0000

Cyndee, this is spot on! While there may be some people who just don’t care much for the feelings of others, most just don’t realize it when they hurt someone else. I would never want to hurt someone else, but I am sure there have been times where I have. I have personally never really been hurt in women’s ministry, but music ministry is another story, so there’s potential for church hurts wherever we serve. We just have to try and be more sensitive to the feelings and needs of others than we are to our own, and press on, loving and serving and extending grace at every opportunity. Some of the things on your list were very eye-opening. Thank you so much for sharing!

By: Deb

Deb — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 21:33:19 +0000

Overall I think this is a well thought out list, but not sure I agree completely with number 10. In a small church with limited people and resources I do not see it working well to have somebody join mentoring mid year. As far as Bible studies I think they should always be open at any time.
We have began a mentor program in our small church (180 regular attendees) this last year with training to equip our mentors. Because of the limited number of spots we announced it saying spots were limited for those who wanted to be mentored and that we would fill them first come first served. We announced it a week before sign ups during church and had flyers passed out and posted around church too. We honestly would not have more women available to mentor if somebody came mid year. We will begin a new cycle next year and we hope and pray God will raise up more women to train/equip them to mentor/disciple other women.
We do have a counseling pastor and his wife to deal with greater needs.